Wow, it's been over five months now since we lost my mother. In that time, we also lost my father in law. Our children have had a hard time dealing with losing two grandparents so close together, but are recovering well. I am grateful they had the chance to become close to my mom during the years she lived with us.
Perspective is developing for me, too, as I look back on our last few months with Mother. I'm realizing that caregiver burnout had set in for me and that the amount of time I spent/didn't spend at the nursing home each day was okay. I know Mother understands. And I do too.